Ahhh, Purity Week!
Recently here at BSSM, we went through what is known as “Purity Week”.
Other names for it are “Freedom Week”, “Redemption Week”, “Sex Week”, and “Moral Revolution Week.” (At least, those are all the different names I heard it called.) I like all of them, honestly, but my favourite is Purity Week.
Purity is probably the topic I am most passionate about. I love talking about it because it is such a sensitive topic in the church. I love all the vulnerability surrounding it, and I love shedding light on it. I absolutely LOVED Purity Week because they shed light on so much that the world misuses in the dark! They are so open and vulnerable about EVERYTHING. I cannot even count how many times “sex”, “orgasm”, “masturbation”, “penis”, “vagina”, etc were said during Purity Week. I love it! The world wants to pervert all of it, but the truth is that God created us, He designed sex, and it is a very good thing! And purity does not just remain something for sexuality, it is a lifestyle.
So, here is my story regarding purity, and only a bit of what I learned during Purity Week:
Purity, sex, and everything else has always been an open, safe topic at home. Growing up, Daddy & Momma always said that if I ever had any questions, I could ask them. So, I am thankful to say I was given a safe environment to talk and learn about it as much as I wanted to.
At around 12-13, I began reading the Bible on my own and searched out scripture regarding sex, sexuality, purity, etc. My main reasoning was because I wanted to know what the actual line was for any sexual activity outside of marriage. I have never done anything sexual with a person, but at that age I did have lust in my heart and had an addiction to masturbation since I was 7. (Glory to God, I was totally and completely freed from it earlier this year!) Unfortunately, instead of going to Daddy & Momma with my questions regarding my issues, thanks to anxiety, I searched the internet to see if I was normal and what the world had to say. The world tried to convince me that masturbation was healthy and normal, and that as a Christian everything but sex was ok before marriage. I found different answers in the Bible, though.
I quickly learned that we are not supposed to lust after people, that we actually do not have to, and that any sexual activity outside of marriage is impure. Eventually in my struggle with addiction to masturbation, I asked God why I felt it was not right. “God, why isn’t this right even though I’m not lusting after anyone when I do it?” He showed me that it is because masturbation is not what we were designed for. It is a cheap cop-out to what he wants us to freely and fully experience and express inside the safety of the marriage covenant.
Purity week confirmed a lot of what I already knew, and brought more depth to it.
They taught me practical things, such as the importance of getting your needs met in a healthy way. This means:
- feeding yourself decent food,
- getting enough rest,
- having a bedtime,
- having community around you to help keep you accountable. (Accountability is described here as “Account for your ability, not your disability.”)
- Making sure you are cultivating healthy, intimate relationships with both genders. (Intimacy here is not a sexual thing.)
They also taught the sacredness of sex. That:
- inside of marriage it is not about getting to a goal, but about getting to know each other.
- sexual intimacy is spirit, soul, and body. It bonds you in every way.
- porn ruins your sexuality and skews your view of sex and people.
I also love the way they answered one of the most asked questions: “Why does God give us a sex drive way before we are able to get married and have sex?” It is because we are supposed to learn how to manage our sex drive! Because when you do get married, you will have to manage it even more so! Your spouse is not your sex slave, and you will also be choosing your spouse every single time there is temptation to run after someone or something else.
I do have to say, though, my favourite thing I learned during Purity Week is that Christians are actually supposed to have the best sex lives!! Haha I love it!! You know why? It is because, just as I said earlier, God created us, He designed sex, and it is a very good thing!